Divorce is difficult on everyone. It is a loss, but one that must be dealt with. Coming back to some stability after a divorce is a process. You are either feeling angry with your former spouse, responsible or hurt. It only he had not done that to our family. If only I had been a better person. You might even feel a little bit of all of the above. Either way it is time to pick yourself back up and go on with life for the children’s sake especially.
Start with you. Make a vow to treat yourself well. You are worth the trouble. Take the time to do something for yourself each day. Paint your nails, do your hair, exercise. Do something. Do not just throw on your jeans and tee shirt and throw your hair into a ponytail. Bother with yourself. You will feel better inside.
Your children need you like they have never needed you before. They might even feel like they are responsible no matter how much you try to reassure them that they are not. Of course, do not stop reassuring them. Love them and play with them as much as you can. Keep their routine normal. Be obliging with the other parent as to visitation privileges so that they have this in their lives. They need it so very much. No matter how bitter, hurt, or angry you are against the other parent, be fair about this. The relationship with the children’s other parent does not involve them, only the two of you.
If at all possible, try to have an amicable divorce for the sake of the kids. Accepting things in our lives that have been difficult, such as a divorce takes a lot of courage, but through acceptance we grow stronger and we are able to face the road that lies ahead of us.
Angel Lynn writes in weight loss, single parenting, and health