Your children will find you. A friend in the online adoption community told me that once. That was long before I even considered adoption as an option for me. She was so right.
For the majority of people their children find them through natural means. There are so many children who, for many reasons, are unable to live with the people who created them biologically. That’s where foster and adoptive parents come in. Foster and adoptive parents come in all shapes and sizes just as biological parents do. What foster and adoptive parents can do that biological parents cannot do is recognize their strengths and devote their efforts and resources in that area.
My husband and I have no desire nor inclination to deal with teenagers right now. It would not be fair to the teens in the foster system for us to open our home to them when there are homes who want and are equipped for them. We know our limitations right now are infants and toddlers, so that is what we do.
One of our neighbors is equipped to foster medical needs children. Not only have they had additional training that we have not, but she is a nurse. They can care for those children that we can’t.
In the church where I grew up there was the most marvelous family whom God called to adopt special needs children. These kids were just as obnoxious as all the rest of the tweens in children’s church, but each one had a disability of some sort. I would have to ask my mom how many children they ended up adopting, but I think it was five and all were special needs.
There are families led to adopt sibling groups. Adoption is a wonderful thing and it takes all kinds of people to adopt all kinds of kids.