Your husband needs you. That may sound simplified, but it’s what it is. Your husband needs respect from you. He needs caring from you. He needs love, compassion, and understanding and yes, sometimes he needs a kick in the pants. Your husband needs you and it’s not just about wanting and passion because they certainly have their place in a relationship.
Your Husband Needs Respect
We all need respect. Men and women alike look for it in their workplace. They look for it in their families. They look for it from their friends and from their children. We all need it. But husbands need respect in the sense that they want to be treated as an equal and as someone who is valued. They do not want to be treated indulgently like they are just another one of the children. They don’t want their words to go in one ear and out the other.
Too often wives refer to husbands as just another one of their kids. They tell stories with this patient tone of voice that describes their husband’s antics with affection, but not respect. Because obviously if they weren’t so cute, their antics wouldn’t be described that way, right? This isn’t respect. It is indulgence and it may even be humorous, but it is not respect.
In a respectful relationship there is a balance between responsibility and obligation. Husbands and wives are treated equally and they are both given respect. This doesn’t mean that the husband is the ruler of the house and decides in all matters. It doesn’t mean the wife is given the deferential veto on all things important. What it does mean is that decisions are made together, the input of both is sought and required and even when you disagree, their voice and their reason is listened to.
That’s the power of respect and that’s what your husband needs. He doesn’t need to be patted on the head like an indulged child. He needs to be treated with kindness, compassion, love, but most of all – respect.
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